Hi, and welcome back! Many people compare themselves to other people, whether it be other believers or people of the world. For instance, another believer looks at another believer, who had the blessings that were bestowed upon them by God, and it just so happened it was a relationship, a promotion, a new car or house, etc. For all we know, it was something that God did, and the one received it now after three years. We shouldn’t look at the other person and question God why He didn’t do the same with us.
For one to compare to these things, we set ourselves up for failure, as we are nowhere like other people. We shouldn’t want to look like someone else or live the life they’re living. There is beauty in being yourself. When we compare, we show God that what He’s done for us already wasn’t enough. We must not forget that we are uniquely created in the beautiful image God made us in. “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” Genesis 1:27 (NKJV).
For starters, compared to relationships/marriages [in the world], the world is going to do what the world is going to do. When we a believer compares the world’s livelihood, we train ourselves to want what doesn’t serve us or will be of no use, and could even fall into impurity.
To be exact, God knows what we need and when. Some cannot take the long wait in a season of waiting. But a season of waiting can be a lot of good; we need to have confidence. Some will think when will God give them a relationship? I can’t answer that, as that’s according to God’s plan for your life and understanding His Will for your life. When there are no signs, it’s easy to get discouraged and compare ourselves to others. Of course, we’re humans. “Why does this guy get to have this girl over here or this girl get the guy over there.” Because the world is subject to what they get to do, in other words, they are not subject to the laws of God, to the wishes of God, or even divisions of God. But are in the depths of the enemy’s world of human will.
In brief, the world’s relationships or marriages aren’t holy or godly and are in the human will. So, believers shouldn’t ever be comparing a ‘wish I can have’ worldly relationship to a godly relationship. They are different. The world’s relationships have no foundation with God, guidance, or stability from Him. When the world says that they are married under God, or as our culture thinks, two men or two women can call that a marriage.
That’s fine for the world, but not for the laws of God. Marriage has no meaning for the world, but to the godly—for “God is Love” 1 John 4 (NIV). We marry to bring glory to God. A worldly marriage isn’t pure and undefiled. A godly marriage is pure and undefiled as it serves God and is married under His Will. It should be Christ-centered.
The thing is when comparing ourselves to how someone is, or has, or given. Our perception of the blessings we have around us will diminish as the devil wants it to. He wants you to think as though God doesn’t care about you so that you should come on over and give in to the world. The world may have things easy or flat out handed to them right away, but that doesn’t mean it will be fruitful. “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing” John 15:5 (NKJV). When we are in God, we will bear fruit, as the same thing for a godly relationship. Our foundation should be God. Without that, there is nothing successful. “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior” Psalm 18:2 (NLT).
To get out of this pattern of comparing, we must ask the Lord to show us thankfulness. The devil hates it when we are thankful for anything. Spend more time in thanksgiving with the Lord. Be humble with what you have, and do remember the little things He’s done for you, and say thank you for what He did. And be sure to be glad, “So rejoice in the Lord and be glad, all you who obey him! Shout for joy, all you whose hearts are pure!” Psalm 32:11 (NLT). Most importantly, talk with Him, and I bet you He will understand as the Lord knows you even when you think no one else knows you.
I promise God will give you a relationship or even a spouse on His time. It would be best if you had patience, faith, and trust. If things become tough on you, ask God to deliver you, and don’t beat yourself up for wanting something or let the enemy discouragement get the best of you. “I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours” Mark 11:24 (NLT). “You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it” Matthew 21:22 (NLT).
That does it for this one. I hope you found this of use and something to consider!